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Raising sons of character: `Spanking is Biblical`

PASAY City, Feb. 14, 2016 – Outdated? Violent? This probably how some would describe spanking one's child, but according to one of the “Marriage is Beautiful” workshop speakers, this form of discipline is actually Biblically recommended. 


“Yes, I spank my sons... I anchor this from verses from the Bible,” said Bro. Bong Arjonillo, a member of the Couples for Christ (CFC) International Council. 


Quoting verses mostly from Sirach and Proverbs, he said this practice, however, should be done following certain guidelines. 


Not inspired by anger

“You cannot be extremely angry while spanking your son and you need to pray for that grace... [If not] it's brute force versus a little child and that teaches him to be violent as well,” explained Arjonillo during one of the concurrent workshops held at the SMX Convention Center earlier today. 


Second, he also said, the child should know the reason behind the punishment. 


“You have to tell your child why you're spanking him.”


To stress that the discipline is done out of a genuine love and concern for the child, Arjonillo said, “after spanking, you need to hug him and tell him 'I love you.'”


According to Sirach 30:12, “Bow down his head in his youth, beat his sides while he is still young, Lest he become stubborn and disobey you, and leave you disconsolate.”


Where in the Bible?

In Proverbs 23:13-14, it says: “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. Punish them with the rod and save them from death.”


Furthermore, Proverbs 29:15, 17 says: “The rod of correction gives wisdom, but uncontrolled youths disgrace their mothers. Discipline your children, and they will bring you comfort, and give delight to your soul.”


Arjonillo, who is also Executive Vice-President, Head of Treasury and Investment Banking at the Land Bank of the Philippines, said propriety of the discipline is something that should be adjusted to the age of the child. 


He explained: “Normally, spanking should stop at the age of 11 or 12... as far as I've read. After the age of 12, other forms of discipline can come in like withholding some activities like depriving them of watching TV or use of the computer, etc.” 


Some 2,628 married couples, their kids, and single people attended the event organized by  CFC at the SMX Convention Center. (Nirva'ana Ella Delacruz)

Added on Wednesday, March 2, 2016



 

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